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Unfit to Serve

Nov 29th, 2010 11:18 PM By Amanda

Some years ago I joined the USAF, long enough ago in fact the president was still Reagan. I watched presidents come and go, policies change on paper, but never saw any real change. I went to war, twice, spent tours located abroad in places no one was clamoring to get assigned to, and consistently year in and year out scored top evaluations and rapid promotions. Then one day it was suspected I was gay.

In actuality I am a transsexual person, although back in those days it was something you kept pushed down as deep as possible – even deeper than being gay. Whether I was gay or not should have never mattered, but there never was evidence I had engaged in a homosexual act because I never had. I loved my job, I loved the Air Force, and I loved my country. I put myself and my needs in a separate box to do what I thought was my duty, even if I wasn’t being supported by my employer – the government. I always believed that some day things would change.

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Nov 29th, 2010 11:17 PM By Mike

I’m from a Military family, and I’ve always wanted to become a United States Marine. But I don’t think I should because I’ll get discriminated against and eventually dishonorably discharged. So, therefore I’ll never serve until this hatred is removed!

My Story

Nov 29th, 2010 11:16 PM By Joey

I joined the Coast Guard in 1994. I always knew I was different, but I never knew why. I didn’t grow up around gay people and I was never exposed to them. Once I left home to serve my country, I encountered my first “lesbian.” Something inside me finally clicked and I knew why I was different. I met my first girlfriend at the young age of 20. Her and I were both stationed on the same ship together and had a wonderfully private relationship courtesy of the Coast Guard, but it never changed how we did our jobs.

The Coast Guard decided to do away with 2 bedroom apartments and move everyone into 3 bedroom apartments. She left the ship to go to school and I was put with 2 other girls. Both of which knew about myself and my girlfriend. At some point when we were out to sea, one of my sweet roommates decided to turn me and my girlfriend in to the command. I was summoned to the captain’s quarters and informed of the charges against me. I was given the option to fight it, or admit to it.

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Nov 17th, 2010 06:09 PM By

DamnAlertThe moment is upon us, we need the United States Senate to repeal “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” as a part of the National Defense Authorization Act (NDAA) during the current lame-duck session before the new Congress takes over next year.

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  • I’m calling to tell the senator that “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” must end BEFORE you leave and the new Congress takes over.

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Nov 11th, 2010 01:42 PM By

The Washington Post reports:


“A Pentagon study group has concluded that the military can lift the ban on gays serving openly in uniform with only minimal and isolated incidents of risk to the current war efforts, according to two people familiar with a draft of the report, which is due to President Obama on Dec. 1.

“More than 70 percent of respondents to a survey sent to active-duty and reserve troops over the summer said the effect of repealing the ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ policy would be positive, mixed or nonexistent, said two sources familiar with the document. The survey results led the report’s authors to conclude that objections to openly gay colleagues would drop once troops were able to live and serve alongside them.”

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Nov 10th, 2010 11:18 AM By

The following is an excerpt from a transcript of an interview by ABC News‘ Cynthia McFadden with Secretary of Defense Robert Gates and Secretary of State Hillary Clinton:

McFADDEN: With the two of you sitting here is it going to get better for gay men and women who serve in the military? Is “don’t ask, don’t tell” going to be repealed?

CLINTON: Well I — Let me answer first, because Bob, of course, has the responsibility of carrying out the policy that is in existence and any policy that might come into existence, and say that I certainly hope so. I think again it’s kind of a generational issue, and this issue, like so many issues, you know young people have different life experiences. But there does have to be a thoughtful process, which is what Bob’s running right now, a process to really survey this and examine and analyze it, and come to what is the best decision for our military and what they’re expected to do out in very dangerous and difficult situations.

McFADDEN: So assuming that –

GATES: I would say –


GATES: I would say that the leaving “don’t ask, don’t tell” behind us is inevitable. The question is whether it is done by legislation that allows us to do it in a thoughtful and careful way, or whether it is struck down by the courts. Because recent court decisions are certainly pointing in that direction. And we went through a period of two weeks in October where we had four different policy changes in the space of, as I say, two weeks, from striking it down totally, to a stay, to appeal, and so on. So I I think we have the least flexibility. We have the least opportunity to do this intelligently and carefully and with the kind of preparation that is necessary, if the courts take this action as opposed to there being legislation.

McFADDEN: And what about the President taking action?

GATES: Well the problem the President faces, I mean his position on this has been clear from the very beginning, and certainly from the state of the union last year. But this is a law. This is not something — This is not a policy.


GATES: This is law.


McFADDEN: So there can’t be just an executive . . .

GATES: . . . And so the President either has to be changed by the congress or struck down by the courts. The President cannot do anything unilaterally.

McFADDEN: So will the new congress?

GATES: Well my hope . . .

McFADDEN: . . . Strike this down?

GATES: My hope frankly is that if they — if we can make the case that having this struck down by the courts is the worst outcome, because it gives us no flexibility, that people will think I’m called a realist, a pragmatist, I’m looking at this realistically. This thing is gonna go one way or the other. And I wanted and I — when I testified last February I said, you know, there’s smart ways to do things and there’s stupid ways to do things. And trying to do this all at once and under some kind of fiat, I think is not the way to do it.

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The following is an video excerpt from their interview:



Nov 03rd, 2010 06:34 PM By

The following is an excerpt from a story by Reuters:

“President Barack Obama said on Wednesday he still hoped to end the ban on gays serving openly in the military, despite big electoral gains by Republicans, many of whom oppose repealing the restrictions.

“…Obama pledged at a White House news conference to deliver on a promise he first made when running for president in 2008.

“‘It’s time for us to move this policy forward,’ Obama said, adding the rule could potentially be repealed in the short session of Congress after the elections, when fellow Democrats will still control both houses.

“Since 1993, homosexuals have been allowed to serve in the U.S. military as long as they hide their sexual orientation. They are expelled if it becomes known. Polls have said most Americans support lifting the ban.

“The House has voted to change the law but unless the Senate takes it up in the final weeks of the “lame-duck” legislative session, it will effectively die.

“Democrats retained control of the Senate in Tuesday’s elections, but Obama will still have to work with resurgent Republicans who will be demanding a bigger voice in issues such as ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.’

“Obama is under pressure to act after a series of court decisions created confusion for the Pentagon.

“A federal appeals court on Monday ordered the ban to remain in place while the Obama administration challenges a lower-court opinion declaring the policy unconstitutional.

“Obama said he was awaiting a Pentagon review, due in December, on the impact of lifting the ban on the military and would study it carefully.

“‘I’ve said that making this change needs to be done in an orderly fashion,’ he said, adding it was important not to do anything that would be disruptive to ‘good order and discipline’ in the military.

“But, he stressed, ‘we need to change this policy.’”

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Oct 29th, 2010 10:05 AM By

According to The Associated Press:

“An internal Pentagon study has found that most U.S. troops and their families don’t care whether gays are allowed to serve openly and think the policy of ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ could be done away with, according to officials familiar with its findings.

“The survey results were expected to be used by gay rights advocates to bolster their argument that the 1993 law on gays could be repealed immediately with little harm done to the military. But the survey also was expected to reveal challenges the services could face in overturning the long-held policy, including overcoming fierce opposition in some parts of the military even if they represent a minority.

“Details on the survey results were still scarce Thursday, with the Pentagon declining to discuss the findings until after Dec. 1 when it rolls out its own plan for repeal.

“The officials who disclosed the survey’s findings spoke on condition of anonymity because the results had not been released. NBC News first reported the findings Thursday.

“President Barack Obama has said ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ unfairly discriminates against gays. Defense Secretary Robert Gates and Adm. Mike Mullen, the military’s top uniformed officer, agree but want to move slowly to ensure that military effectiveness doesn’t suffer.

“Among their top concerns is that forcing too much change, too soon on an institution that historically has been reluctant to embrace gays could prompt a backlash among troops and their families.

“With a Democratic-controlled Congress already considering a change to the law, Gates in February ordered a yearlong study into the matter. As part of that effort, the Pentagon sent out some 400,000 surveys to troops and another 150,000 to family members on the military’s policy toward gays.

“Officials said that with the survey results complete, the working group is analyzing the results and working on a plan to overturn the policy should Congress repeal the law.”

Read the full The Associated Press story >>



Oct 14th, 2010 05:21 PM By

The following is an excerpt from a story by CNN:

“The Justice Department Thursday formally appealed a federal court ruling that struck down the government’s “don’t-ask- don’t-tell” policy, requesting an emergency stay to block the judge’s injunction stopping enforcement of the policy.

“Justice Department lawyers say they want the federal court in California to grant a stay of the injunction, which would remain in effect throughout the appeals process.

“…U.S. District Court judge Virginia Philips in California issued her injunction Tuesday.

“…Meanwhile, senior military lawyers at the Department of Defense directed military lawyers to stop any proceedings related to “don’t ask, don’t tell,” a Pentagon spokesman said.

“The staff judge advocate generals from the military services — the senior military lawyers — sent an e-mail informing the military to abide by the injunction.

“‘The Department of Defense will of course obey the law, and the e-mail noted that, in the meantime, the Department will abide by the terms in the court’s ruling, effective as of the time and date of the ruling,’ said Col. Dave Lapan, Pentagon spokesman.

Read the full CNN story >>


Sonarman’s Dream, Destroyed

Oct 13th, 2010 01:31 AM By Joshua

So I thought I’d serve my country and get an education. I knew my father and grandfathers would have been proud of me. I enlisted in the US Navy, and shipped out to basic days before 9/11. I felt a great confidence swell in me and pride knowing I would be fighting to protect my country and future family. I graduated from Sonar “A” School 4th in my class. I had the pick of the fleet. When I reported to my boat, I qualified faster than many had in the last year. I was a good Sailor, and I loved what I did.

I kept who I was pretty privately, and nobody really messed with me. Well, these two sailors one night thought that gays didn’t belong in “their” Navy. When they jumped me as I was leaving my watch, they learned that gays weren’t helpless, nelly queens who couldn’t fight. I blackened one’s eye, and broke the other’s jaw. My hand got a fracture as well, and I learned fighting didn’t solve anything.

Then when someone came on to me that I wasn’t interested in, I turned him down. He reported me saying I came onto him and wouldn’t back down. His chief went to the XO before my division could vouch for me. They knew I’d never do that.

It was embarrassing to have to pack my stuff up, leave the love of my life, my submarine, and give up my dreams of becoming an officer or Chief.

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