I am 21 and my fiance of 3 years is 24 years older than me. (No she’s not rich). I am mature for my age (as that’s going around these days). We are open about our sexuality, but don’t boast. We run into people who are amazed at how comfortable we are telling people we’re gay and she is 45 yrs old. I do live in the south, but I haven’t had much discrimination. I believe that’s because I don’t go looking for it, and when it is presented to me, I ignore it and walk away. It’s that simple.
Of course, when I start a new job, I feel everyone out before I go telling my business, everyone should do that. I believe, if you tell someone your homosexual like your ashamed or worried about how they will react, they will see that and react in that way. We can be a lot of fun to be around. Robin is a character and everyone is drawn to her, she’s from Jersey, nuf said.
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I was abused as a child and well into my adulthood. As a result, I wasn’t aware of my sexuality until I was an adult. It may seem strange as I had three kids. But when a person is sexually abused for most of their life, your sexuality is buried deep inside. With help and becoming aware of who I was, I realized that I was a lesbian. So, I was about 45 years old when I knew that I was gay.
I told very few people because of comments that were made about “gay” people. Unfortunately, most people that I was around socially and in the workplace did not understand. So, I was very afraid I would lose my job and be ostracized, if I told.
Now that I am 64 years old, I am more open about my sexuality. But I still am too afraid to be open in the workplace. It angers me that young people are being picked on for their sexuality, and in some cases they commit suicide. It also is very sad.
I would like to help in any way that I can to stop this prejudice.
Growing up I never fit in anywhere until my drama teacher came to my high school. He helped change me and my friends into the proud adults we are today. This man taught me a lot about tolerance and has strived to teach others the same, he has even saved kids from committing suicide because they thought it was the only way out. And what thanks does he get for it? This great man has been fired from his job as a teacher because he showed an anti gay bullying video during anti bullying week.
So tell me is this justice or in truth un-justice?
When my daughter was 14, she told me she was a lesbian. I remember it well. I was not offended, or angry, or appalled. I loved my daughter, and that love is all that matters. Love and support are all that ever really matter.
When she was 21 she took me took to her bar, where I have met the most amazing friends. All gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgedner and they have all become my adopted family. I love each and every one of them.
Through the past seven years, I have went to the bar here, where we all live, so many times.I hear the stories of hate and abuse from the peoples’ own families and it sickens me. How can you not love your child because of their sexual orientation?
I am a proud parent and proud supporter of my GLBT family. There is no reason for hate, or physical violence, we are all just trying to be who and what we are. I support their rights, to live, as married couples, to love and to work in a hate-free society.
I am a mother and wife. I am also straight. My husband serves in the military. He doesn’t have to fear losing his job for sharing his life with me. These are not rights that we had to fight for and I don’t believe that these are rights that others should be denied. Being straight does not make me a better partner or parent. Being straight doesn’t make my husband more qualified to fight for our country. I just want people to have the same rights as me regardless of who they choose to love.
Everyone deserves the right to have a family! Everyone deserves the right to choose who they marry. Everyone deserves the right to hold their child for the first time. These are experiences that I have been lucky enough to have the right to have and I think it is time that everyone gets to have those rights too.
My name is Kaylynn and I live in Colorado Springs Colorado. In 2005, my late wife Barbara and I took the City of Colorado Springs to Court over Domestic Partnership Benefits. My beautiful wife passed away in her sleep on May 10th, 2006 from MS at the age of 44. That and our fight against the city and people contributed to her death. I will post the story that was written in our local paper about her and I and her death in this letter for you to read. What led to us taking the city to court was the fact that I am perm disabled due to being hit by a drunk driver many years ago and she was, until her death, a 911 police dispatcher with the Colorado Springs Police Dept. One night while she was working she got a call that I was having a grand mall seizure and after sending a ambulance to help me she turned to her manager and told him I was being rushed to the hospital and she needed to go to be with me.
She was one of the most decorated 911 police dispatchers at the police dept and they all knew that we had a commitment ceremony, owned a home together and had a daughter and granddaughter who was just a baby. Because I am perm disabled I had my own insurance because they did not offer medical to gay and lesbian families, nor did the police dept consider us a family. When she asked to please let her go to the hospital to be with me her boss told her that she had 2 hours left to work and if he could not find anyone to replace her if she left she would be fired. My beautiful wife Barbara and I had discussed this before and I made her promise me if this ever happen she would not leave her job because she needed it because she had MS. She had never broken a promise to me, so she stayed dispatching not knowing if I were alive or dead. There is a lot more to this story, but to sum it up, when she came back to work the next day a straight co-worker came up to her and told her she had heard what happened last night and how 3 months before her dog had died and they let her go home that same day and take a week off.
I used to work for a company called Rent A Center between the years of 2004 to 2007. While working there everything was great. Until, in April of 2007, I started to transgender from male to female. I gave my job a six month notice of my intentions. I was told right away that what I wanted to do in my private time was fine, but I could not bring it to work. If I did I would be sent home each day I showed as a woman until I submitted to the company’s wishes. I actually had to go to the NY labor board and retain a lawyer for them to allow me to begin my change at work.
I really thought that was the end of it when they backed down. In December 2007, I learned of exactly how wrong I was. I was terminated from Rent A Center for what they said was crateing false documents. The next day I found out from my boss that it was a set up to have me fired. The company felt uncomfortable having a transgendered employee and didn’t want to have “one” working for them. I was one of their biggest sellers in the area untill I was fired by them. The regional director and market manager were the entire time working against me to have me removed for what ever they could think of. I still can’t believe it has happened to me.
Everyone deserves the right to have a place that they can feel safe and not worry that someone is going to try to damage their career. There are too many small people in this world and they really need to wake up and see that no one is out to get them.
This may not fit the bullying/discrimination that has been talked about, but I still feel that the emotional impact of the situation that I will describe. It can be just as dangerous and, to a certain extent, be considered bullying/discrimination. (I was 31 years old at the time). This is in regards to expression. I am a gay man. And as a gay man, I like to put up gay friendly-positive items in my personal space. The place where this event took place is a call center.
This is a place where people sit in their own personal cubicles and take calls for people calling about their cell phone and other related items. Since I did have my own personal cubicle, I decided to put up some gay friendly items that I feel would make me more at ease with my workers and my environment. (As I have typed before, the space was a personal cubicle.) When the evening-nighttime assistant call center manager saw my cubicle with gay positive signs/messages, she, in front of everyone, bashed me for having those items up and told me to take them down. I did so I wouldn’t cause a scene.
Being gay in the workplace may be difficult, but sometimes it isn’t. I was working for a very well known restaurant and doing very well. I work multiple positions and was liked by the majority of the staff there. The exception was mainly one cook. We made a mutual agreement through the management just to stay out of each other’s way and if we had to work together, then just to do the work and then get away from one another. Now I didn’t have a problem with him, so don’t think I was being heterophobic (If they can be biased against us, it’s possible for it to work the other way around ok?)
Well after working there for awhile my partner needed a change in career, when his workplace closed, so I got him a job waiting tables. He was widely accepted and made many friends. We already were cautious about PDA in public, and both agreed that we would just act as coworkers, not partner, when at work. Now that in itself is slightly offensive to me, but I understood the necessity. So, were a straight couple working together may hug when they join the other at work, or maybe sit together and eat lunch, or just maybe be slightly more friendly and compassionate at work, we didn’t. I had the reputation for being very fair and friendly, but a hardass none the less at work. My partner didn’t get anything less then that when we worked together. Most people thought I was overly hard on him, but that’s because with me guidance at home, he quickly stepped up in the workplace so I was molding him to be successful (which he was).
My work life has been a very blessed one. My current job hired me BECAUSE I’m a transgendered woman. And once I started working at my current job I have been treated very well by everyone. People asking me about what I’ve been through, what is the process of transitioning, etc. I feel that my employer hired me because they wanted to take a chance of making my workplace a more diverse facility of employment. And it has worked.
In fact, 2 more transgendered women have been hired at my employer and I can say my company is the most diverse company to work for in the state of Florida. It angers me that more companies aren’t more inclusive to be more diverse and something has to be done first at the state level. And after that, the national level. Then more of us will be employed because of our abilities. Not because of who we are.
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